JUST IMAGINE

Unarguably, one of the elements that really destroy people is anger. High temper, sparking, burning, wrath, flared-up, explode, outburst, mad and piece-up are usually associated with anger. These words are commonly used to express or describe circumstances and or angry situation. In other occasion people use these words to describe their angry situation. Sometimes they use these words proudly or in a witty style not knowing that in actuality it describes who they really are. A critical analysis of these words reveals that they are associated with fire, madness, explosion and their effects. Consider with me the word danger and temperature in connection to anger. Technically the following is derived. Temperature = temper – nature/mature Danger = D = anger = devastating or destroying anger What do I mean by this? Literally, when anger matures or when anger is in you automatically your temperature becomes high. Likewise anger is dangerous and can destroy or devastate your life at a high speed just as a wild fire devours a jungle. The Bible in James 1:20says“For the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God”. Anger on its own can make you sin against God. Anger is an unpleasant attitude that creeps into your heart which makes you see things in a definite way and eventually stir your action and reaction negatively. People with lack of exposure get angry easily, so you have to watch them. Whenever you see or come across someone who easily gets angry, watch him or her very well, they are unexposed. I hope you know what I mean by unexposed, having read through the previous chapters. I am saying this from experience. In Indonesia while on a few days seminar, I met a good-looking lady who was always wearing a long face each time I went to their office. Her looks was very disobliging and I was compelled to ask her colleague who understood a little of English language, why is her colleague always feeling bad what was wrong with her? She told me that the lady had no problem, but she was scared to exchange a few words in English. Consequently I decided to make them my friends as I visited them every day after recreational activities and within some time we became very friendly. After some days this same lady brimmed with smiles when she saw me, I was very surprised and I began to imagine how long she has been suffering like this. See with me in your mind's eye the perpetual sadness one can go through when he or she is not exposed. Do you know that one can be nice and still be full of anger in him or her, one can be so polite but easily filled with anger at any slightest mistake. Do you know that one can be very beautiful, handsome, and attractive and still battles with anger at any slightest gaffe? In fact, you may still find people who are influential, educated but lack the ability to control their temper. It is very possible to say or preach nice words and soon anger overtakes at a slightest stir. No wonder you see some stars, leaders, highly influential personalities who lost their positions, their personalities, their reputation simply because of their inability to control their anger. Anger can lead you to do nasty things, it can make you think and act so irrationally. Sometimes you look at people and you judge them based on their present look and you go ahead and approve of them, but when you work closely with them you now realize that you are in danger because of their anger. It happens in relationships, it happens in business, it happens even when choosing your friends. This is because most people are covered by their looks and lack the ability to control the bitterness in their spirit, sometimes they don’t want to be angry, but it just comes and they can’t help reacting to it. During our final year in high school, Zak was well known for his ferocious temper, often times he picks anything within his reach and smash it on the floor in disgust making everybody around very uncomfortable. However, prior to our midterm examination, Zak was angry with his roommate and he smashed his calculator on the floor, after that he could not write the final year examination because he was still boiling with anger and he failed that subject. While we were graduating, he was behind because his anger made him to fail that course and he had to stay for an extra year in school. This is one of the things anger can do to a person. Ecclesiastic 7:9 says “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit for anger resides in the laps of fools” Please note this, to be easily angry doesn’t necessarily mean you are a bad person, but it simply means that you lack the ability to control the circumstances within you and this gradually exposes your stupidity to people. When you continuously think negative about something that hurts you, or something that someone did to you, it spurs your anger and you feel bad. Well, you may ask, can’t one ever feel bad? I want to say this again; it is entirely your choice to feel the way you want to feel. If you know the dangers attached with anger, you will choose to be happy even when it hurts. People fail constantly but fail to understand that their failure has a connection with their anger. Bishop T.D. Jakes during one of his teachings describes anger as “Nothing but letting the crazy feeling out of hand” angry people have developed a system of blaming everyone else for their problem except themselves. Anger is a strong element of destruction that you must learn to control. Anger doesn’t decide to dwell inside of you, it only seeks to be accommodated then it takes charge and controls you. That is why it doesn’t look at how famous or influential you are or how educated and attractive you are, it doesn’t even mind how old or how spiritual you are after all, Moses was spiritual, yet anger stood between him and the promise land. When anger is accommodated, it contaminates your spirit and begins to direct your action. I agree with the book of Ecclesiastics. 7:9 it says that “Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools” anger can stop you from seeing your future, I say this because I know that some people are still angry over events that happened years ago, what a world of bitterness. Some people sunk their minds in anger and they fail to see the opportunity that lies ahead. Types of anger There are two kinds of anger I would like to mention here, that is the positive anger and the negative anger. They are two different things. You will agree with me that it is not a sin to be angry about injustice, corruption, sinful act or misconduct. This kind of anger is normal as they are tailored towards positive change; here the anger serves as fuel that drive you to achieve greater and positive things in life. The positive anger helps you to generate positive impulse in achieving good and great goals. The negative anger drives you crazily and blindly to negative destination. Effects of anger When you are angry, some of the things that will happen to you include the following:  You have a horrifying facial look  Your spirit is contaminated  You make mistakes  You make wrong decision  You display your inability to handle issues  You make a wrong judgment  You speak carelessly  You may lose your reputation and or your position  You lose your respect  You are exposed to sin  You display your stupidity Additionally, when you are angry you cannot even trust your own judgment so you don’t expect others to trust your actions and reactions because you can destroy valuable things and make bad utterances when you are angry. Overcoming anger You will agree with me that anger is simply the activities that happen outside of you that spur you to think negatively inside of you. Therefore,